Who says you can't feel that way?
Who says you can't have those things?
Who says you are not enough?
Who says you will never get there?
Take a look. A HARD TRUTHFUL LOOK.
Look at those people.
What do they have? What do they feel? Who are they within their own lives?
A person who says never, no, not gonna happen is just a person who does not believe in themselves.
When someone does not believe in them-self, the entire world and all things moving seem impossible, doomed, and immobile.
When they project those feelings on to you, it might make you feel so hurt.
So fucking angry.
You might hate them for it.
You might also believe them.
I will never do it.
I will never achieve x, y, z.
Do what your immediate gut feeling does not say. Reject what you were taught. Reject your instinct to be angry and hurt.
Instead, find love.
Find it within your soul.
Close your eyes, travel deep within yourself, through all your veins and up into your mind. Tell yourself, "love."
When someone else flings poop at you for your ideas or your efforts, remember love.
You deserve love.
You will achieve ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR SIGHT ON, but it will require love.
And those judgemental no, not, never's ... those people who find a fault, flaw, or foundational error in everything.
They need love most.
Because they are stuck in the no and the never. So they are miserable.
LISTEN TO ME NOW. AND TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY.
In fact, tattoo this to your freaking hand if need be.
"Love moves mountains."
It may not be your responsibility to show love to someone hateful or doubtful.
Maybe it is not. Maybe you cannot literally change them in this moment. Maybe they are not even ready.
Maybe all you can do when they say no, never is say "I trust myself. I know I will." Or "I will find a way."
One time I asked a bully what was wrong. I literally asked them mid insult toward me what was wrong. And they actually started to cry. It was in high school in the girls bathroom. She cried and she told me what was wrong.
She never said a word to me again after that day. But she felt heard.
"It is not your personal job to fix people". We hear this all the time. And maybe for some people, it IS TOO GREAT of a task.
But I take the gamble.
Do not rely on the words and intentions of someone who is hurting or unhealthy.
And do not make their life even worse by humoring their bad opinions, or even worse stopping your own life because of them.
Instead, choose love in your own intentions, words and expression.
So that you never become someone else's "no, never".
So you inspire those around you to follow suit.
Published by Jean Soto JS Jaded Savior blog: firstname.lastname@example.org
Jean Soto, mother of 3 and wife, is a writer + artist in the Hudson Valley, NY community.
Content mention of Rape, Abuse, Neglect, Addictions, Mental Illness, Kidnap, Molestation, Child abuse, Teen Pregnancy, Abortion, birth, body image, gender/identity dysphoria, sexuality, personal trauma, domestic violence and other extremely personal stories. Please practice caution. I am not a licensed physician or mental health professional. No medical prescribing is provided on this site, Only personal insights, experience stories, and advice; All stories published have had prior authorization. Questions? Contact Jean at: email@example.com
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