Jaded Savior is a platform for trauma survivors and healers to share their stories to provide our readers with inspiration, empowerment, and validation. Often we read countless marketing ads, business campaigns and "event check-ins" or reviews on social media, but are uncomfortable with the idea of reading a persons' post about a really hard experience or life trauma. JS is dedicated to breaking the barriers around Trauma + healing, to allow triggers and personal accounts to be shared in a safe, non-judgmental space.
JS is on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook, posting thought provoking images, quotes and stories about Trauma + Anxiety + Depression + Poverty. Writer Jean Soto likes to ask readers what their deepest thoughts and emotions are surrounding these topics and request feedback to share with the JS blog audience. Participation from social media followers, who live in regions all around the world and are of a very diverse demographic, allows her to study Trauma in a unique way.
Through real-time collection of responses and frequent submissions, the JS blog can build content that is considered current and unaltered, supporting the mission which aims to wake up society, shake the standard, provoke the term "whole" and build branches of healing for those in desperate need of it.
Facebook has been a great tool for connecting with trauma survivors and holistic healers, to post polls and multiple choice questions for users to engage based on desire and trust. Though most people who participated in Jaded savior research posts have been okay with the exposure of their identity or business within the comments, a common theme among them was the need for privacy of identity when sharing personal trauma stories for a huge variety of reasons.
What is stopping you from sharing your #trauma story on social media?
1. Fear of judgement
2. Having to relive it in words.
3. What people might think of you after?
Immediate responses poured in, picking all three reasons for not wanting to share a trauma story on facebook. The most popular reason was worry about what people might think about them, followed by an issue with the "offenders/abusers" possibly seeing the posts which could lead to legal problems or traumatic repercussions for the victim.
One Facebook follower shared an interesting view on sharing and the possibly unhealthy motivations people may have for writing about their past trauma.
"I share mine in circles and my workshops. I think you have to have your story processed in order share to a degree. I have a friend who is a sexual assault advocate and she has coached me through processing and sharing. I think we have make sure we don’t emotionally bypass the healing process and jump to sharing. There is a fine line between sharing and rehashing/venting."
For non-victims of abuse, reading public Facebook posts about someone elses' Trauma experience could come off to the reader as "attention seeking" or "inappropriate" for the social media platform due to explicit content or extensive emotional phrases.
However, part of the healing process for survivor of trauma is to open up about their experiences and gain validation + understanding from healthy minded people. These crucial steps help a survivor regain the ability to process their identity and self worth post-trauma.
One common, but problematic occurrence, is when a trauma survivor ruminates over their past rather than having a healthy approach to processing their experience. This type of coping mechanism consists of a person retelling their trauma sometimes over and over to rehash the event, while not actually focusing on accepting what has happened to them, or focusing on a healing path that is right for them.
Though fear and apprehension are normal emotions to experience if you have not shared your story yet to anyone, it is a healthy part of the healing process to open up to someone. Through the ability to trust someone with your story and the validation from a healthy minded person, you can gain the right tools to heal past the inflicting symptoms caused by trauma.
It can feel very rewarding to open up on social media or write anonymously for a blog (or social media page) to voice your trauma story. It is not recommended for anyone who has experienced trauma without seeking professional help or education on mental health and wellness to push themselves into experiences that may trigger them, expose their identities' prematurely or their story before being truly ready. However, once the healing process has begun, sharing on a social platform (whether anonymously or not) can be a great step forward in both personal growth and empowering other survivors not yet validated or supported in their own traumatic experiences or toxic relationships.
There are many options for trauma survivors to gain council and help, through a medical professional or a licensed social worker. Many insurances cover counseling services, including visits with a trauma specialist, which is ideal for someone who has experienced trauma and abuse in their life.
If you are someone you know might be interested in having their trauma + healing story published, please email: firstname.lastname@example.org; check out the features tab to submit a story.
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Published by Jean Soto JS Jaded Savior blog: email@example.com
Jean Soto, mother of 3 and wife, is a writer + artist in the Hudson Valley, NY community.