When you lose someone due to the closing of a relationship, it hurts. It is sad. We have to grieve it whether the choice was ours or theirs.
We have to reflect on what the good and times both were.
You can be sad but not want to bond with someone any more. And it may take a really long time to get over it. But it is important to honor your own boundaries. To honor the growing period you are handed once something clears some space in your life.
It is a clearing.
And this gives you the opportunity to bud new loving relationships.
The first one you need to check in on is the one with yourself. Do some repairing and mending on your wounds and the qualities you know can improve on. Find your triggers around this last dying relationship so you do not mistreat or misunderstand the new people that come into your life.
You will not attract solid, supportive, positive friendships if you are full of anger + sadness from all the losses. Especially if you think they were yours alone and only the other persons fault.
Healthy is the goal.
No matter what area in your life you are setting them.
You should want and strive for healthy friendships and relationships with others.
If you still find yourself thinking or saying negative things out loud about people, like "it is too hard to find a good person or a good friend", "everyone these days acts so flaky," then you need to go back and do some inner work.
When you project your fears and insecurities, you attract them.
Quite literally out of your own tension and anger, you make other people who are like that come into your conversations and world.
We do not just shed the dying relationship but we shed the bad mindset that kept it going as long as it did.
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