The concept of "whole".

I've been thinking a lot about the concept of "whole" and how unattainable it feels for someone who has been shattered by abuse.

We idolize this idea of "whole" because we think there are people out there who just "are".

Who were born into the perfect, loving family.

Who never had to struggle without money or shelter or food or provisions.

Whole means holidays of magic and celebration.

Whole means a full fridge all the time and a happy person ready to cook and serve it.

Whole means loving relationships and healthy communities that all go [not out of their way] exactly as ALL IN as they should into helping one another out.

Whole means friends who show up, call, celebrate, and encourage you.

Whole means a job you love and an environment you absolutely love showing up to.

Whole means great health and balanced diets. Strong bodies and athletic stamina.

Whole means pleasured and pleasuring and nights full of orgasmic perfection.

Whole means all time is managed and all nooks are in their crannies and all bows are perfectly symmetrical.
Whole means never having to heal from the bad.

Whole means kisses and promises dont taste like regrets.

Whole means heard.
And seen.
And valued.

Now a days I ask myself...

Who even is "whole"?

Who had the luxury of being raised "whole" without nightmares or anxiety or depression?
Without illusions of who they can really trust or what their reality is really like without abuse?

Maybe some.

Probably very few.

I want to talk about our TRUTHS.

The things that keep our shards of broken emotions taped together.

"I want to shake the standard and provoke the term 'whole' because too many people are avoiding their truths thinking that facades are crazy glue.

The truths are that we are every bit made up of trauma, each and everyone one of us is in some way hurt.
And so long as we chase our tails thinking the tip of healing is the end all, we do not really see the entire value of what we are in the present.

Not being whole has taught you a whole lot about life.

Not being perfect has helped you to grow through your mistakes.

You just need a reminder daily that what you are currently is a moving mosaic.

And it is beautiful.

So sit down with it, the fragments of your being.

And tell yourself it is enough now.

You are enough right now, your valuable insight and resilient nature.

And you will never "become somebody" or "do something meaningful" once you are "whole".

You will be invaluable now if you speak your truths.

Your purpose now is to be transparent during the hard days.

So that we can all realize we are quite similar.

And finally stand together.

♡
J.S. Jaded Savior

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